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Preparing Yourself for a Prayer Partner
Preparing Yourself for a Prayer Partner
We should desire to be prepared to be a prayer partner. When we are, we can encourage someone else because the Love of God constrains us. II Cor 5:14.
A key purpose of having a prayer partner is: To encourage your prayer partner in the Lord. Heb 3:13 (KJV) “But exhort one another daily…”
We need to understand there are factors that affect relationships and praying together is a form of relationship.
Let’s start by examining what roles affect our Christian relationship. In building a prayer relationship with others, we should focus on the role of God’s Holy Spirit:
When we all pull together, together, together
When we all pull together, how happy we’ll be.
For Your work is my work
And our work is God’s work.
When we all pull together, how happy we’ll be.
(note: Pulling together is very important)
With this approach in mind, we should ask ourselves a question about our motives in praying with someone else, because if the motives are not in line with God’s Word, they can block our following God’s example. A question in looking at motives that we should consider -- Is having a prayer partner about ourselves—our “personal needs”, or do we really want to join together with others in a way that can encourage them? If we do want to join together with others in prayer, then why not ask the Lord’s help in following His example of encouragement? See: Phil 2:1-5: If there be therefore any consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any bowels and mercies. Fulfill ye my joy, that ye be likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. Let nothing be done through strife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others. Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus.
Now let’s move forward and look at personal preparation for praying with others. There are two steps:
Moving forward in preparation in praying with others, let’s look at some common issues frequently faced about prayer, and look at what God’s word says:
Is our fear of being open rooted in our struggle to keep our feelings private? Are you afraid to share problems, such as ones that are very personal?
God’s word does say: “confess your faults one to another, and pray for another that you may be healed.” James 5: 16 It is easy to say that verse, and many of us have encountered issues from other people when we have opened up about faults. If God says to do it, then God will find a way to help us obey his word. .
God’s word tells us that God’s job is to hear and answer. I John 5:14-15 It is difficult to do that when we have learned to control our destiny, or at least try to.
Getting into God’s Word and putting it into practice; and asking God’s help helps us to open our hearts to the Lord. Most likely, when you look at yourself on various issue points, listed above, you may find they actually apply to each of us in one way or another. What we are focusing on here is a personal look at the fears and issues that we may have. Then once we know where we stand in relation to what God’s word says, we can ask God’s help to align our hearts with His word. There are the real issues in our heart that affect our reaching out to others—the Bible encourages us to reach out to others—a brother, sister, or friend in the Lord; and God can and will help us. That help comes when we obey God’s word and brings His blessings.
Unfortunately, so many of us are caught up in self focus for various reasons, which hinder our encouraging someone else—However with God’s help, we can overcome a self-focus; and reach out to someone. It does take a commitment to do so.
After you have taken time to prepare yourself, there are a few other important issues that may relate to standards, should also need to be considered, which will affect our relationship in praying with others. You might call these “basic standards for being a prayer partner”. Consider the list below -- are these issues true of yourself?
A word about confidentiality: The nature of concerns shared in prayer, is often extremely confidential. Confidentiality must be protected. The protection of confidentiality encourages trust and offers a safe haven.
It is important to realize that if we make a judgment or criticize what is shared, those judgments and criticism can hinder another person’s sense of trust and ultimately destroy the safe haven, confidentiality, which had been built on trust. It can create a situation where we put up guards and are not free to receive what God has for us. Judgment and criticism will block the work of God’s mercy and purpose and can grieve the Holy Spirit. (See Rom 14 vs 13).
Friends, as God enables you to pray with others, you will discover that you are praying with greater direction and purpose, which will help you encourage your prayer partner as well. You may also see your Christian walk grow closer to the Lord in the process, especially as you focus to encourage others through prayer; whether directly praying with them; or during your personal time with the Lord, carrying their burden to the Lord on their behalf. It will help you grow spiritually. A result in praying-together, would be seen in people growing in their relationship to the Lord.
In conclusion, we encourage you to make a commitment to pray with others, and let God’s Word help you.
Reflection on this lesson:
*Why would understanding God’s word be important in praying with someone else?
*Why is it important to look at our personal attitudes before we pray with someone?
*What harm may happen, if we allow gossip to occur? How does this affect other’s sense of confidentiality? See Prov 11:13
*What happens to a relationship if prayer is all about ME?
*Why is it important that we understand God’s truths that are in the Word of God, and have them in our heart?
*Does it help to base our prayer requests on God’s Word?
*Spell the word Joy out. What could the letters stand for?
J stands for_______
O stands for_______
Y stands for _______
Keeping that order in focus can help us in prayer with others.
(Answer to Joy: Jesus, Others, You. Take note: the third letter of JOY represents You, which comes last.)
Knowing Gods word and having it active and hidden in your heart is very important in praying for others as well as ourselves.
Taking in Gods word each day feeds us and gives us direction in our walk with the Lord.
I have always felt drawn to pray for others especially unsaved family members and friends. At times I would even describe it as a burden to pray for them, not in a bad way, but in a urgency form. It has been a true blessing to me to watch a loved ones soul finds its way to Jesus Christ! I prayed for my father for over ten years to find the peace that only Jesus could give him in life. After several God encounters, a loss of a son, "my brother who i also had a burden to pray for" and a very severe stroke, he asked me to pray with him and for him on a Easter Sunday. That day my burden for him was lifted.
Pray is a amazing gift and a tool God has given to us to use for His glory! I gives thanks for each one of these lessons, they have taught me so much more about prayer and Gods awesome word!!
Your words are encouraging, not only to myself but to others. Many of us have family whom we want to see follow the Lord and that the family circle will not be broken in heaven's eternity. Indeed letting God's work guide our heart and prayers will make a difference in our families.
Thanks so much for sharing.
You are not rambling---that reply was very well stated -- possibly better than I could. Thank you. I know it will encourage others, and encourage them to share here and when they pray with others.
Here is a copy of a devotional for today. My question follows. I believe it is important to know and use God's Word in our prayers to insure that we are praying according to His Will. Devotional follows.
At the Center of God's Love
But you, dear friends, carefully build yourselves up in this
most holy faith by praying in the Holy Spirit, staying right at the
center of God's love, keeping your arms open and outstretched,
ready for the mercy of our Master, Jesus Christ. This is the
unending life, the real life!
-- Jude 20-21 msg
Prayer is a gift from God empowered by the Holy Spirit. The Holy
Spirit intercedes for us, and this intercession goes beyond our
words (Rom. 8:26-27). Jesus, through the Holy Spirit, gives us
access to God (Eph. 2:18). The Spirit of God within us joins with
our Spirit and testifies that we are God's children and approach
him as our Abba Father (Rom. 8:14-17). This means we can come to
the Creator and Sustainer of the universe at any time and know we
are valued and heard. So if we want to stay in the "center of God's
love," we must take advantage of this grace of prayer --
intentionally coming into the presence of God, entreating the Holy
Spirit to intercede for us and carry us along in our moments of
prayer as we speak to God, Spirit to Spirit (Rom. 8:27; 1 Cor.
2:10-16). Praying in the Spirit is to center ourselves in grace and
love of God. We, as his dearly loved children, come to him in
dependent trust and confident hope, knowing that we are heard
because of the gift of his Spirit within us.
Gracious Father, Almighty God and Creator, the Sovereign Lord,
thank you for inviting me to come to you and call you my Abba
Father. As the Spirit intercedes for me, conveying my thoughts and
yearnings as well as my words, I ask for your help and guidance so
I can live for you and bring you glory. In Jesus' name I pray.
My question. DOES ANYONE KNOW OF A REFERENCE OR BOOK WHICH CONTAINS A LIST OF SCRIPTURE DIRECTED AT PRAYER, E.G., EPH 3.16-20? TY.
Thank You for your thoughtful and complete reflection, and your reference to the Holy Spirit's part in our prayers.
I'm not sure this is what you mean for prayer reference, but I have a Nave's topical Bible which is a digest of Holy Scriptures and it has a section in it that list directed at prayer. Maybe this can be your answer?? FRAN
There is a strong and powerful relationship between putting on the armor of God and praying. These two things belong together; in fact, one grows out of the other. It is not enough to put on the armor of God; you must also pray. It is not enough to pray; you must also have put on the armor of God. It is impossible to divide these two. Putting on the armor is essentially something that is done in the realm of your thought life. It is an adjustment of the attitude of your heart to reality, to things as they really are. It is thinking through the implications of the fact that revelation discloses. This is always the necessary thing to do in trying to face life. We must consider the implications of our faith (putting on armor} and THEN talk to God about it in the Spirit, NOT pray first.
Thank you Grover
I wouldn't have thought of that, but it makes perfect sense. Some one once said that when we put on God's armor we cover the front of us and that prayer covers the back. When we go into battle we always think of going face forward that leaves the back of us vulenerable. Prayer is the covering we have in battle. When we pray then it covers our backs as well as it gives an advantage in properly using our weapons of warfare in our daily battles. ??
Classmates and teacher,
I am requesting your prayers. March was such a difficult month and I feel depleted. Need to be replenished in the spirit, as well as physically.
It is important that we have God's truth in our hearts because as David said, if we dont, we will sin against Him. Sin separates us from the Father so a pure heart is important in the relationship with God as we approach Him in prayer. The heart of the matter is the matter of the heart is a true maxim. The scripture in the Proverbs about guarding the heart with all diligence, for from it flows the issues of life comes to mind now. Truth in the inward parts helps us avoid superficiality, both in our relationship with God and those we pray with.